"Without a sacred center, no one knows right from wrong."
Thomas Yellowtail Crow
...When the spiritual malady is overcome, we straighten out mentally and physically.
Big Book pg. 64
Your husband knows he owes you more than sobriety. He wants to make good. Yet you must not expect too much. His ways of thinking and doing are the habits of years. Patience, tolerance, understanding and love are the watchwords. Show him these things in yourself and they will be reflected back to you from him. Live and let live is the rule. If you both show a willingness to remedy your own defects, there will be little need to criticize each other.
Big Book pg. 118
Great Mystery help us to find our sacred center.