"You can't just sit down and talk about the truth. It doesn't work that way. You have to live it and be part of it and you might get to know it."
Rolling Thunder Cherokee
Yes, there is a long period of reconstruction ahead. We must take the lead. A remorseful mumbling we are sorry won't fill the bill at all. We ought to sit down with the family and frankly analyze the past as we now see it, being very careful not to criticize them. Their defects may be glaring, but the chances are that our own actions are partly responsible. So we clean house with the family, asking each morning in meditation that our Creator show us the way of patience, tolerance, kindliness and love.
The spiritual life is not a theory. We have to live it. Unless one's family expresses a desire to live upon spiritual principals we think we ought not urge them. We should not talk incessantly to them about spiritual matters. They will change in time. Our behavior will convince them more than our words. We must remember that ten or twenty years of drunkenness would make a skeptic out of anyone.
Big Book pg. 83
Great Spirit let us live the road of truth.