Why is it so hard to accept help...When we need help we have not fallen short. If we have done everything we can to help ourselves then we should consider the other person's time to give...We can remember the feeling when it comes our time to help out. Gratitude is a sign of strength.

J Hifler  Cherokee

 It is important for him to realize that your attempt to pass this on to him plays a vital part in your own recovery. Actually, he may be helping you more than you are helping him. Make it plain he is under no obligation to you, that you hope only that he will try to help other alcoholics when he escapes his own difficulties.

Big Book  pg. 94

You are going to meet these new friends in your own community. Near you, alcoholics are dying helplessly like people in a sinking ship. If you live in a large place, there are hundreds. High and low, rich and poor, these are future fellows of Alcoholics Anonymous. Among them you will make lifelong friends. You will be bound to them with new and wonderful ties, for you will escape disaster together and you will commence shoulder to shoulder your common journey. Then you will know what it means to give of yourself that others may survive and rediscover life…

Big Book  pgs. 152 & 153

Grandfather remind us to be willing to ask for help and to give help when asked.