Our little children hovering round us weep, most starved to death, we've naught for them to eat. All this distress is justly on us, comes for the accrued use we made of rum.
This painful past may be of infinite value to other families still struggling with their problem. We think each family which has been relieved owes something to those who have not, and when the occasion requires, each member of it should be only too willing to bring former mistakes, no matter how grievous, out of their hiding places. Showing others who suffer how we were given help is the very thing which makes life seem so worth while to us now. Cling to the thought that, in God's hands, the dark past is the greatest possession you have--the key to life and happiness for others. With it you can avert death and misery for them.
Big Book pg. 12
The head of the house ought to remember that he is mainly to blame for what befell his home. He can scarcely square the account in his lifetime...
Big Book pg. 127