“When you remove love
and try to replace it with monetary things, you've got nothing ... get him to
understand that he has to love himself before he can love anything else."
Peters (Slow Turtle) Wampanoag
alcoholics are enthusiasts. They run to extremes. At the beginning of recovery
a man may take, as a rule one of two directions. He may either plunge into a
frantic attempt to get on his feet in business, or he may be so enthralled by
his new life that he talks or thinks of little else. In either case certain
family problems will arise. With these we have experience galore.
think it dangerous if he rushes headlong at his economic problem. The family
will be affected also, pleasantly at first, as they feel their money troubles are
about to be solved, then not so pleasantly as they find themselves neglected.
Dad may be tired at night and preoccupied by day. He may take small interest in
the children and may show irritation when reproved for his delinquencies. If
not irritable, he may seem dull and boring, not gay and affectionate as the
family would like him to be. Mother may complain of inattention. They are all
disappointed, and often let him feel it. Beginning with such complaints, a
barrier arises. He is straining every nerve to make up for lost time. He is
striving to recover fortune and reputation and feels like he is doing
mother and children don't think so. Having been neglected and misused in the
past, they think father owes them more than they are getting. They want him to
make a fuss over them. They expect him to give them the nice times they used to
have before he drank so much, and to show his contrition for what they
suffered. But dad doesn't give freely of himself. Resentment grows.
He becomes still less communicative. Sometimes he explodes over a trifle. The
family is mystified. They criticize, pointing out how he is falling down on his
Book pg. 126
me remember that my spiritual walk is right here in everyday life.