These two rules are by which I grew up. Do not kill or injure your neighbor, for it is not him you injure or kill, you injure yourself. Do not wrong or hate your neighbor, for it is not him that you wrong, you wrong yourself. Meneto, the Great Mother, the Supreme Being, loves him also as She loves you.
It is plain that a life which includes deep resentment leads only to futility and unhappiness. To the precise extent that we permit these, do we squander the hours that might have been worth while. But with the alcoholic, whose hope is the maintenance and growth of a spiritual experience, this business of resentment is infinitely grave. We found that it is fatal. For when harboring such feelings we shut ourselves off from the sunlight of the Spirit. The insanity of alcohol returns and we drink again. And with us, to drink is to die.
Big Book pg. 66
We might next ask ourselves what we mean when we say that we harmed other people. What kinds of "harm" do people do one another, anyway? To define the word "harm" in a practical way, we might call it the result of instincts in collision, which cause physical, mental, emotional, or spiritual damage to people. If our tempers are consistently bad, we arouse anger in others. If we lie or cheat, we deprive others not only of their worldly goods, but of their emotional security and peace of mind.
Twelve Steps & Twelve Traditions pg. 80
Great Spirit free us from judging and hurting others.